Three Types of Love - (789)

Introduction

There are three types of love. They are sensual, emotional and conscious love. This post is a description of all three.

Meeting Another

In any meeting with another person these three loves have to the potential to intervene in the meeting. Most of the time as expected, these three loves feature only slightly and sometimes depending on the nature and history of the relationship they may feature very strongly or perhaps just one features much more than the other two. The descriptions in this post I hope will help you to know which one is active or featuring the most in our interactions with the other person.

Sensual Love

This is not necessarily strictly about sex, but it is more about the senses which however can and does include sex. We may love chocolate, coffee, cakes, certain colours, certain foods etc. etc.

The love for all these things is through the senses and a very big part of this type of love is that our senses are pleased. As soon as our senses are displeased sensual love disappears. So sensual love then, in conclusion is highly dependent on the senses.

In any interaction with a person this layer of the interaction can feature. For example with our parents, we may love that Mum makes really delicious food and buys us really nice things. In other words in any interaction there is a layer to the interaction that pleases or displeases our senses and our level of sensual love can increase or decrease in accordance to the degree our senses are pleased.

It is not so good when we only love another person based on the senses. That is to only love your Mum because she makes great food, is a little sad. It is amazing how much food is part of relationships. A whole friendship or relationship can revolve around food, and things are good in the relationship when the food is tasty and the opportunity to go out and eat or cook is there. The exact same thing applies with sex as well.

Emotional Love

Emotional love kicks in when our emotions are pleased or displeased in our interactions with others. For example we may love our Mum emotionally because she provides security, comfort, safety, she does not judge, she does not reject us, she cares for us, she make sure we are going well and are happy etc.

In this kind of emotional love, we have the relationship centred around the emotional aspect of it, that is us feeling good about ourselves through the relationship. Sometimes people lack these things in themselves, and so because they can not get them from inside themselves they seek these things through relationships.

Emotional love has a very special characteristic where it goes up and down a lot from feeling great and close to another to then getting angry and feeling distant etc. with the other person. The reason for this is that we can not always depend on others for these feelings of acceptance, love, security etc. and as we are very dependent on them to feel good about ourselves, we at times get very angry and disappointed because we need these good feelings and that expect the other to deliver them to us or make us feel them about ourselves.

It is quite unpleasant actually to only love emotionally. This love is about having a base in the other person to provide you with impressions so that you can feel good, fine, at peace, secure, comforted, accepted, esteemed about yourself. When really we should be doing that for ourselves.

In any interaction with another person we can see this level of interaction taking place, where we feel comfortable, and fine and secure and we may like that person because that person provokes those emotions in us. This is not wrong but when we come to depend on it, we are going to get ourselves into suffering big time!

Conscious Love

This is a love that is independent of the sensual love and the emotional love. Often this is the type of love that is missing from all of our interactions. It is the love of the consciousness that acts in benefit of the consciousness of ourselves and the other. It perceives and acts for the benefit of one’s essence in ourselves and in others. It is to put the values of the Being into activity. It is balanced and it is just and produces the right end result. Suffering is not a main feature of conscious love, where as it is with the emotional love and sensual love. Conscious love also leads to divine love.

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