Dharma and Karma in Relationships - (5824)

Accumulation of dharma and karma also applies to relationships. That is the secret why many relationships work and others do not.

When a relationship works there is dharma or merit. When a relationship is problematic there are debts.

Putting values to work in any relationship creates merit or dharma. Merit or dharma makes things to work smoothly. Even if the ego is well and alive in both people.

Debts can also be accrued, by not using values in the face of the many different events and scenarios, relationships encounter. 

The very first time two people meet there is no karma or dharma, this the most nuetral point. Merit or debt can be created from there onwards.

When there is merit or debt, it is clear that two people have meet and interacted before.

When co-operation is required and there is merit, it is easy to bring co-operation, and values are used multiplying the merit.

When values are deficient, to bring co-operation and make things work as they apparently should, coercion are often used. Coericion can take two forms, one is via bending the truth and the other is by the use of force. In both cases, coercion compensates for the absence of values and is the instrument of fear. 

In any case to acquire merits in an relationship, work is required. When there is existing debt, more work is required. Debts have to be repaired first and then merit from the use of values built up. When there is built-up merit there is harmony.

A relationship can turn from merit to debt when the opposite of the Divine values are used, which over time wear down the merits accummulated, turning the relationship difficult and problematic due to debt.

This teaching also explains why a person may be a good person with decent values, and eventhough some relationships are good there are others that are not. This is because there is merit already in the harmonious relationships and debt already in the difficult relationships.

Relationships with debt are problemtatic and difficult until merits appear. As soon as merits appear things change and the scales of the relationship move. 

If one side of the scale favours one party more in the relationship, the Universal Divine Law of Balance has an entry to step in and administer certain acts of rebalancing so that the person with more merit can live in accordance with the nature of the merit they have. That is the secret.

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