Relating to others is a science and an art.
To relate really well to others in our life we need to know others and we need to know how to relate to them.
To know them is the science and the practice of how to relate is the art based on the science.
The more we know them and the better we know how to relate to them the better overall the relating will go.
The more difficult the person is the more disciplined we must be with our science and art.
After all everything is a discipline. Every profession has its disciplinary aspect. Answering emails on time, organizing files, quoting on time, reporting, etc. etc.
It is a worth while science because to know the other we have to know ourselves.
To not know the science and art of others is to be like a 'bull in a chine shop' or to use a 'spoon to cut a steak'.
To know the other we have to depart from ourselves, not remain stuck in our thoughts of how the other person should be but actually 'see' how the person really is.
In the process of departing from ourselves to know the other better and practice the art of relating we work and polish ourselves to a high degree.
The more difficult the others are the more we polish and discipline ourselves.
The art of relating to the other is inspired by wisdom and love.
The art of relating is always about getting the best out of the person. It is to not hurt or annoy the person nor is it to manipulate the person to get what we want. It is to be noble, that to use this science and art with noble intentions.
If we abuse this science nd art we will pay our dues by being appropriately coerced and forced.
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