Often we see an angry person as strong, domineering and difficult. However, looking behind that facade we find that they are scared or hurt.
When there is strong pride it is often too difficult to appear vulnerable and say the truth to others that "I am scared or feel hurt".
It is better for pride to be angry and spiteful and demand to have things go our way. Because pride will manage to save face and keep the fear or hurt disguised.
Because we use anger we are blinded from trusting in the kindness of others which is what we need to do instead of resorting to anger and disguising our fear or hurt.
There is always a reason for pride to disguise fear or hurt. Maybe the past...
An angry person is usually always a person hurting. We can only feel that in others when we allow ourselves to look behind their anger.
The paradox is that to see the fear behind their anger we have to overcome our own fear of their anger.
The other paradox is that being truthful and vulnerable is more powerful than anger.
Anger does not promote understanding and kindness in others but rather revenge and distance - which in the long run, runs far from a true solution.
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