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Pampering – What is it and Why it is Detrimental - (837)

Introduction - We Love Pampering

Let’s face it we love pampering ourselves and others. It seems good, though is it really? This post is a deeper look into the subject.


We Pamper Ourselves and Others!

When we pamper others we do it for a reason and the results in the long term are not good. In the short term they may be good but definitely not in the long term. Why do we pamper others? We pamper others because it benefits our interests. Sometimes when we don’t see this point, we say to the other or think to ourselves: “I pamper you because I love you”. But just wait a second, as soon as they reject our pampering the love we have for them disappears in a flash and the real thing in us comes out - the anger about not getting what we want or not getting that interest pleased. That interest could be many a thing, from: acceptance, approval, love, affection, kindness, care, money, compliance with our laziness and errors etc. etc.


It is About an Excess to the Detriment of Something Else

Pampering is about the excess, it is about giving or receiving or having or feeling or experiencing over and beyond what is needed. It is about crossing over the line of balance, where something becomes harmful. Often in pampering others we lower our sense of reality, we ignore the reality and become overly and unnecessarily sweet, we give too much, we take from our dignity, we bend over backwards when it is not our fault and we shouldn’t be required to bend over backwards so to speak.


We Pamper Ourselves!

Just as we pamper others we pamper ourselves, We pamper ourselves in many ways from psychological ways to physical ways, that is through our psychology or through the senses. When we pamper ourselves we give to ourselves too much, that is to the detriment of something else in us or something related to us.

That is what pampering is about, it is giving to the excess and to the detriment of ourselves or someone else. When we pamper ourselves we give ourselves or afford ourselves too much protection, security, comfort and pleasure. Always that extra protection, security, comfort and pleasure is what rots us and spoils us. It is just like giving a plant too much water, it makes the plant sick.

When we pamper ourselves through the senses we become sick, and that sickness is a weakness which expresses psychologically as a belief that we can not live without it or be ok without it or it is unfair or too difficult or life has no meaning or that we need it. All are untrue if we investigate a little deeper.


Conclusion

The ego certainly pampers us to our own detriment. Most of the time, the tougher we are on ourselves, the better for ourselves. Give to yourself but don’t pamper yourself because to pamper is to give in excess to the detriment of something else in us. Also be careful pampering others as that is no good for them and turns against us as well later on down the track.

End (837).

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