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Introduction – a Peculiar Feature

We human beings have a particular psychological feature that is very common to some egos, especially self-importance, self-consideration, self-love, self-compassion, resentment and anger.

This peculiar feature silently expects others to see or recognise that we are upset with them, or that we are wanting or needing something from them.

We can learn from cats because they don't have this problem, they tell us humans what they want and sometimes we can get what they want and sometimes not. 

A Little Absurd

This is pretty crazy, we just like the other person, may be perceptive but not that perceptive to be able to exactly know the psychological state and thoughts of another person. Yet we really expect others to know that we are angry, that we are waiting, that we need love, that we want to be consulted, that we want a chance to apologise, that we feel sorry for what we have done, that we need some space, that we are tired, that we need a break, that we are suffering, that we need some consideration or some concession, that we want a hug, etc. etc.

With Awareness it can be Eliminated

This feature I think can be eliminated by just becoming aware of how absurd it is to expect others to know our psychological state especially when we don’t say anything.

One reason why we don’t want to speak is because as soon as we do it will make us seem childish and ridiculous to ourselves and to those listening. Pride.

Conclusion

Well we either just have to speak and bring things to the conscious light in a respectful and mature way or give up wanting to receive that from others and develop we want from others for ourselves and others. For example, you want consideration from others, then develop consideration and apply it to others and to ourselves in an positive and edifying way, which may be to consider your Being, are we doing well today in relation to our Being?

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