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Jealousy Manifestations – (2555)

Pulling Off the Mask

This could potentially be a very powerful post in the sense that it could well totally reveal our jealousy and leave us with no other option but to begin seriously working on it.

All of these manifestations are obviously expressions of the logic of jealousy as most of these manifestations have a reasoning behind them.

It is this reasoning that we need to catch for ourselves and unravel by contrasting it with our inner Being.


Manifestations

Interrogation

We ask lots of questions about what happened, what they said, who did you sit next to, whose car did you go in, etc.

We ask what they did at certain points during the day, trying to find out if they went somewhere that they did not tell us about.

We want to know the details to determine if something ‘fishy’ is going on. We even ask ‘special’ questions to see how our partner reacts, so that we can determine if they are up to something or they like this other person.

Looking for Clues – Checking for Lies

We check what our partner is wearing, we try and check their emails, their phone, the GPS in their car, we carefully observe their manner for anything unusual anxiety or nervousness etc.

Looking to See if Others Are Interested in Your Partner

We check those around who may be interested in our partner for silly reasons really. We do this to like test them, to see if they are interested in this or that person. All in order to assess their ability to like someone other than us or even take off with someone else.

We can get pretty upset if our partner talks to someone else more than us and we can get pretty upset if we see that other people touch pour partner. This is mostly because we have come to think of our partner as a kind of possession.

Withdrawing and Pouting

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Accusing

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Derogating the Competition

We analyse the other person that we think our partner may like or be friendly with and we bring up all their weak points, lack of virtue, intelligence, decency etc. to our partner.

The logic here is to make the other person not look worthy. But it more than that we take out our hurt that our partner has exercised the right to break our sacred concept that he or she should not be interested in or like another person and we channel all of our hurt into a kind of ill-will that is directed at the other person (not out partner) with the motivation to hurt our partner. We think try to get back our partner by hitting what they like.

Derogating Your Partner

We knock down our partner with the reasoning that by them feeling low they won’t think that they are worthy enough to consider they have the right to be friendly or someone else.

This is a direct attempt to get compensation for the hurt it caused us when our partner ‘had the gaul’ to like someone.

Threatening to Terminate the Relationship

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Reminding Your Partner About the Cost

Which to remind your partner the costs of leaving us. We make them forcefully know how much we have given them and how much we do for them and how much they will lose if they leave us or ‘do something stupid’.

Try to Make Your Partner Jealous

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Checking Out Other Prospects

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Conclusion

Sorry I run out of time but decided to post this to give you a bit to read and I will finish it up tomorrow.

End (2555).

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