Hard and Tender Feelings

Hard and Tender Feelings - (2918)

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Tender and Hard

With regards to people there are two general types of feelings: hard and tender. As per the old expression: "no hard feelings".

Having experienced the two emotions both of them indeed feel just the way they are expressed when they are spoken of as hard and tender.

Hard feelings are rigid, strict, unforgiving, unmovable, closed, one-sided, definite, rebellious, usually they are a stern 'no', they are cutting and impenetrable...Like cold and hard stone...

Tender feelings are giving, open, empathetic, flexible, soft, understanding, benefiting, reasonable, good willed, overlapping and understanding...Much like water...

Hard Feelings

Hard feelings come from a hurt pride or a hurt self-love. Also from a lack of trust, basically all from the hurtful past spilling over into the present.

We feel that hard feelings protect us and will soften the heart of the other and draw an apology or a humiliation of the other towards us. But all the while these hard feelings hurt us inside...and hurt brings hurt.

Tender Feelings

Tender feelings come from love, from the essence, from good will, from understanding, from seeing another's point of view, from trust, from patience, from balance, from the heart.

Pride makes the heart into a stone...

To have tender feelings is to have the fires of the heart burning alive and well in ourselves...

Of course we can not forget balance and our consciousnesses to orient our heart and its tender feelings... Even the heart’s own intuition guides itself.

Conclusion

Hard feelings feel awful and harden the heart and essence. Best to work on them and eliminate them and being careful not to fall back into them.

In general the heart and essence when active are soft, and it is said by great paradox the hardest thing on Earth is water becasue water wears down, in time of course, the hardest of rocks. So then, who is more at risk, the person with hard feelings or the person with tender feelings?

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