Our reactions are usually what makes things worse on two fronts: for ourselves and for others.
Where producing a response with our consciousness does not make things worse for ourselves and mostly not for others.
To watch with alertness our reactions, seeing what is reacting and not give our motor centre over to that reaction is the method.
To help ourselves do this there are a number of keys. One is to listen so as to see what in the other persons or people is speaking. That is to ask ourselves the question: "From what place are they speaking? Are they hurt? Frustrated? Confused? etc.
Knowing the above helps us to respond. Instead of reacting. When we respond we can talk to or address the psychological place from there others are coming from.
Knowing that reacting makes things worse and at any moment we are standing on a cliff's edge. Where below is an abyss of some kind. If we react we fall down the cliff taking a lot of time and effort to get back up to the edge again.
Knowing that it is something uncomprehended inside of ourselves that reacts and when we react we lose the chance to comprehend it and we strengthen that which reacted within us.
Knowing that sacrificing our reactions allows us the opportunity to liberate ourselves from the difficult situation. Reacting ties us more to the difficulty of the situation.
Not reacting allows the storm to calmly pass.
This is an important discipline to dissolve many egos.
End (5678).
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