What the Lacking of Values Does - (1710)

Looking at the Values Lacking Behind the ‘I’ of Self-Consideration

There is an aspect of the “I” of self-consideration related to relationships that make one to feel the feeling that one is not very complete. That something is missing, that there is a lacking of some kind in us. That we need something from someone. That we can't be happy or feel complete or as ourselves until we receive something from someone.

‘The Lacking’ Examined

This kind of lacking does not allow us to flow onwards with the events of life.

We remain unhappy with the way life is in those moments. We remain fixed on those moments, and this fixation perpetuates our unhappiness.

This lacking is not something physical but something psychological. It is in our thoughts and in our feelings. It is really our own selves denying us the feeling of the ‘normal' feeling of being complete.

Whatever the circumstance, we owe it to ourselves and more to our Real Being. Because our inner Being is complete and by us not feeling 'normally complete' we are actually denying our Real Being inside of us.

The Being in us is a cosmically autonomous being. It does not intrinsically lack. It is a mini creation, a mini-universe where all has been formed and provided for. We even have our very own Absolute where it is Adhi-Buddha that is the Absolute in our mini-universe.

A Solution to the ‘Lack’

Imagine we are here in the physical body feeling as though we lack something and need something from someone. But within our mini-universe that lack would be provided for. Because within a mini-universe there is everything. So what is the solution here?

Obviously if we lack something it is to go inside of ourselves and fill that lack. To seek the filling of that lack within us, is the solution. To fill that lack we must start with the psychological knowledge first. What is that lack?

We need something from someone so that we can feel something that we feel we need to feel. The need to feel something is more important than anything. This is because emotion in us becomes a truth or a reality. If we can not feel it, then it is not true for us. We actually use the other person to feel something, where we can really learn how to feel that same thing but of a higher quality generated by ourselves.

Lack of Trust

So it may be that we need to feel some kind of assurance or security. We want an assurance once again of our position with that person or within a particular group. We want to feel at peace, at rest because we are always thinking that our position is insecure or at risk of being loosened and let go of. In essence what we lack is a certain trust. That is the core of it, the underlying issue, the lack of trust.

This is why we feel that we need something from others. Because we lack trust, we lack a certain value. That is why we need others. If we develop certain values we will stop needing others, have less self-consideration and be able to truly be like flowing water. Not stuck or stagnant in our internal processes and therefore in our physical life and its circumstances.

The next post will cover this issue of a lack of trust more.

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