Looking at the Values Lacking Behind the ‘I’ of Self-Consideration
There is an aspect of the “I” of self-consideration related
to relationships that make one to feel the feeling that one is not very
complete. That something is missing, that there is a lacking of some kind in
us. That we need something from someone. That we can't be happy or feel
complete or as ourselves until we receive something from someone.
‘The Lacking’ Examined
This kind of lacking does not allow us to flow onwards with
the events of life.
We remain unhappy with the way life is in those moments. We remain
fixed on those moments, and this fixation perpetuates our unhappiness.
This lacking is not something physical but something
psychological. It is in our thoughts and in our feelings. It is really our own
selves denying us the feeling of the ‘normal' feeling of being complete.
Whatever the circumstance, we owe it to ourselves and more
to our Real Being. Because our inner Being is complete and by us not feeling
'normally complete' we are actually denying our Real Being inside of us.
The Being in us is a cosmically autonomous being. It does
not intrinsically lack. It is a mini creation, a mini-universe where all has
been formed and provided for. We even have our very own Absolute where it is Adhi-Buddha
that is the Absolute in our mini-universe.
A Solution to the ‘Lack’
Imagine we are here in the physical body feeling as though
we lack something and need something from someone. But within our mini-universe
that lack would be provided for. Because within a mini-universe there is
everything. So what is the solution here?
Obviously if we lack something it is to go inside of
ourselves and fill that lack. To seek the filling of that lack within us, is
the solution. To fill that lack we must start with the psychological knowledge
first. What is that lack?
We need something from someone so that we can feel something
that we feel we need to feel. The need to feel something is more important than
anything. This is because emotion in us becomes a truth or a reality. If we can
not feel it, then it is not true for us. We actually use the other person to
feel something, where we can really learn how to feel that same thing but of a
higher quality generated by ourselves.
Lack of Trust
So it may be that we need to feel some kind of assurance or
security. We want an assurance once again of our position with that person or
within a particular group. We want to feel at peace, at rest because we are
always thinking that our position is insecure or at risk of being loosened and
let go of. In essence what we lack is a certain trust. That is the core of it,
the underlying issue, the lack of trust.
This is why we feel that we need something from others. Because we lack trust, we lack a certain value. That is why we need others. If we develop certain values we will stop needing others, have less self-consideration and be able to truly be like flowing water. Not stuck or stagnant in our internal processes and therefore in our physical life and its circumstances.
The next post will cover this issue of a lack of trust more.
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