A person spills their coffee, drops their keys, coughs up their drink, walks funny, doesn't hear properly, doesn't understand, the list goes on...
When we get annoyed we have in our subconscious background that they are wrong. This subconscious feeling of wrong is mixed with other perceptions like they are stupidly wrong, wilfully wrong, or ignorantly wrong, wrong with ill-will etc. in short - wrong in all sorts of combinations.
The thing is that they are not wrong though! They may be technically wrong - true, they clumsily dropped the same spoon three times, but they are not really wrong in themselves for doing that are they? They honestly are not wrong for doing that! They just couldn't hold the spoon, or if they did it on purpose they did it for psychological reasons that they were sincere about and they were doing something right for them even if it was wrong.
Understanding this that they are not wrong, really helps like nothing else. So much so that it can really drop all sorts of annoyances.
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