A necessary skill in life is to know how to separate things. Especially when it comes to people.
We have to apply separation all the time really. If we don't separate we can fail at whatever it is. I think even being able to separate is a sign of maturity - a sign that a person has much experience in life and in the workings of human nature.
For example, with co-workers we have to separate their beliefs from ours and see them as a co-worker, as a professional with many learned and useful skills. Separate from our mind what they believe in and how they worship etc. and relate to the professional side of them without our feelings or appreciation for them being affected.
We mainly have to separate things when we have a problem. Say I have a problem with someone's beliefs then when I deal with that person I have to separate from that so that my thoughts about them are kept positive or at least neutral.
We need to apply separation when we make a psychological error of seeing one aspect of the person as the whole person.
A person may give a talk and we know that he or she does not know from direct experience what they are talking about, so we get disappointed and we stop listening. If we are intelligent we will separate, the talk from the person giving the talk. The information that they are presenting if they are repeating the teachings is not wrong. So then it becomes more important for us to then make conscious what the talk is about and forget about the experience of the speaker. If we did not separate we would not learn anything.
Separation leads us to learn something. Because it allows us distance through which light can enter and then we can see and then we can learn.
We also need to separate from all kinds of sensations and emotions. So as to not allow those sensations and emotions to affect our psychology.
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