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Expecting Intimate Care from Others (5367)

Introduction

Sometimes we can observe a certain desire within ourselves and it is like this desire wants that we be intimately cared for and looked after. We want that someone love us very intimately in their heart and that they love us even more than they love their own selves or look after themselves. This sounds pretty selfish from the outside but it is very honestly something that we feel.

This desire comes to us from time to time and it can even be with us all the time if things in our relationship are not going well.


A Question we have to Ask Ourselves

A question pops up when we are feeling these things that I have outlined in the above introduction, and it is: What about us taking care of someone else in that way? “Can we expect someone to really love us more than they love themselves?”


Answers

Well the answer to those questions is yes and no. We can love someone that way, taking care of their intimate needs (but in balance not to our detriment), and we can’t really expect in reality someone to love us more than they love ourselves.

So we can control how we love, how we give but not how and what we receive. That is something that we often make the mistake in thinking that we control how we are loved and that is where a lot of our problems come from.


There is the Problem

The problem there is really our mistake to expect that someone can love us more than they love themselves.
However being realistic about this does not really help all that much, well it helps us to understand that we are being very selfish, over-selfish and unrealistic I would say, but the desire is still there.


Quenching this Desire

This desire can be quenched by ourselves doing what this desire is really asking for and that is give up on others taking care of ourselves intimately and do it for them and do it for ourselves.

From the Gnostic point of view we would say to take very intimate care of your Being and His or Its destiny and well-being. The more we love our Being and take care of Him/Her/It the more love will come to us. 

When we are wanting love from others we are forgetting ourselves and we are being mean to our intimate real Being inside us.

To take care of your Being is to take care of yourself because you come from Him and in the very end you are Him.

Self-love is something real but the self-love we have is the love of ourselves through the eyes of others, or in other technical words love for ourselves in relativity and duality.


Conclusion – Actually Taking Intimate Care of your Being

If you pray with loving words and you do all that you can for your Being during the day you are taking intimate care of Him. If you talk to Him opening your heart, expressing your worries and concerns you are being honest, trusting, loving and intimate with yourself and your Being.

Maybe that is what this desire is driving you to achieve and to do.


End (5367).

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