Control Freaks Love Through Control

Control Freaks Love Through Control - (1527)

Conditioned Love

A control freak 'loves' another when the other does what they say.

A control freak 'loves' when he or she is in control.

A control freak 'loves' when he or she is in charge and is leading the situation.

A control freak is mortally offended when one breaks from their control.

A control freak can not feel 'love' or affection when the other is spontaneous and takes the lead to initiate anything. The control freak only feels 'love' on its terms and can't not be in control.

A control freak may feel dizzy, sick, uncomfortable and full of resistance when another is leading but as soon control is turned over to the control freak, the tiredness, sickness etc. all disappear and warm smiles are seen to break out.

A control freak does not love really. A control freak loves in relation to the extent in which they are control. The less they are in control the less they 'love'.

They feel appreciated, wanted, respected, admired and doing the right thing by others when they are in control.

There are all kinds of control freaks, there are affection control freaks, money control freak, house cleaning control freaks, kitchen control freaks, you name it control freaks. The interesting thing is to find out where we are a control freak.

When it comes to love and friendship they can not control their love
becasue it is conditioned.

Oh No! Watch Out!

When someone breaks free from their control they are stunned for a while and then resentful and then depressed. They feel themselves to be unloved, unwanted, not needed, not useful and so they fall into a very low state.

They don't realise that they themselves always give themselves the whole spectrum of feelings, from the positive to the negative. When they are in control something inside them allows them to feel 'love' and when their control has been brushed aside they generate the feelings of not being wanted and not being useful etc.

Conclusion

A control freak has to stop making their point of reference in order to love another person that of 'being in control'. A different and liberating reference point is the happiness and freedom of both people in the relationship.

One must also find out why one needs to be in control.

End (1527).

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