Anger appears and stays, when we for some reason assume or decide that there is negative intent in the other person or situation.
Most of the time there is no ill intent. we assume mechanically and so quickly that there is.
Sometimes yes there ill-intent but we can always choose what we assume. We can always assume a good attitude before ill-intent.
The way to go forward is to undo the quick assumption of ill-intent and to create positive assumptions that no one is operating out of ill-intent. They are operating out of what's best for them... Which is positive intent right? They are not operating out of a place to deliberately hurt us.
When we do this, we will see some causes of why we assume ill-intent. It often comes from a lacking of some ability.
For example, we may lack trust in our ability to think and communicate with others to overcome apparent ill-intent. So we then resort to anger to go against ill-intent and solve the qualm with anger and a falling out.
End (5666).
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