What triggers anger so much of the time in people is having made some kind of mistake. Where after making the mistake we are angry at ourselves or angry at the people upset at our mistake.
If we master this one situation we can dissolve most of our anger and prevent angry situations for ever appearing.
As soon as we make a msitake, look inside and respect why we made it. There will be reasons and then respect those reasons. Understand why we made the mistake and respect the reasons why even if they were wrong. To do this because anger will overwhelm us as soon as we disrespect ourselves or go against ourselves.
Many would argue in the big picture of things there are no mistakes...
Be ok with the mistake we made and then look to see and understand the better way. Know and understand that the correct or better way is the not the mistake we made and respect the better way as it will produce better results for us.
With this respect going both ways, repsecting our mistake, why we made it and respecting the non-mistake ('the better way') we don't need to protect ourselves and therefore we don't need anger and even fear to appear to protect ourselves.
Try this and you will see how it works. Try it the very next time a mistake is made, big or small, it doesn't matter and then see how this double respect takes us out of blame, our of justification and to embracing comprehension which makes everything better.
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