Separation from the Ego V (193)

What Makes us to See the Ego as One?

What helps separation is when we don’t want that ego. It is identification that makes us to see ourselves as one with the ego. We fully adopt the identity of the ego. The identity of a person who has been wronged, or the identity of a Don Juan or an identity of a person who is being attacked or being offended or insulted etc. etc.

Separation, really is a matter of awakening and comprehension. This is probably the first step in the awakening in Gnosis. We do it most of the time only partly, but to do it fully consciously is the real key.

Self-Remembering

The real self-remembering comes from that being that consciousness not taking on other identities which are the egos. We have to do that consciously. Without separation or an in depth knowledge of that self-remembering is not really effectively possible either.

How can we separate from something if we don’t know the two parts that we are going to separate from?

Degrees of Separation

There are degrees of separation. Sometimes we can be intellectually separate from the ego but still have it in our human machine. This is when we suffer. This is when we know how to suffer. The right way to suffer is conscious suffering. It is a real myth that we are able to separate all and every ego just like that, maybe in the Second Mountain and in the Third Mountain.

Conclusion

We are to blame as to why we identify with the ego, only though when we know that we are the consciousness. It is difficult to be fully responsible beforehand, all that we can be responsible beforehand is to not allow the ego in us to make us do wrong things, because we have to know wrong from right. The more we know that we are an essence or consciousness the more or the better we will be able to separate from the ego and be more responsible for our psychological functionings.

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Separation from the Ego IV (192)

We are an Essence

Separation is the understanding that we are the awareness the essence and that the ego or the other things that appear in that awareness are something that are not of the essence and are not us. The whole key to that of separation is this formula: These thoughts are not me, this logic is not mine, these emotions are not mine either. But we need the consciousness experience that we are not the ego, nor the thoughts, nor the body nor the personality.

Non-Identification

Separation is also non-identification. Meditation on the ego is not that superficial thing of analysying the details of what happened, and how it could have been avoided etc, but being the consciousness and questioning deeply the existence of that “I’ that is trying and we have let it take the place of the consciousness.

How do we Know we are an Essence?

How do we understand that we are the awareness the essence? The answer is by meditating deeply on these formulas or facts and inquiries. The questioning of ourselves is really very deep but the thing is, we have to get or arrive at our own answer to this question. It helps us immensely and it is fundamental to our knowledge and to our who we are and what we are doing here.

When we are bothered by an ego the first thing to ask ourselves is: “What ‘I’?”. Because the ‘I’ of that ego does not exist. The consciousness is not an “I”.

Conclusion

The hypnotic grip of the ego is among other things the belief that we are that ego. We feel one with that ego. Separation is impossible when we think that the ego is one with us or that we are the ego. Separation is so fundamental in our psychological well-being, in transforming impressions and in the death of the ego.

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Separation from the Ego III (191)

Introduction

Objective of this post: to give people concrete and solid techniques to separate from the ego.

When we Fail

Where we fail in the work of the ego is in separation. This step out of the five is the most important step that there is. We can work in the other steps but if there is no separation then we will fail.

The Basis or Foundation of Separation

There is a very important crucial truth underlying work on the ego and specifically the separation of the ego from our psyche is that which we fundamentally are. We are awareness or we are consciousness.

The question is to really separate the ego deeply from ourselves we have to know that to have experienced that have to come to the consciousness discovery and acceptance of that. That all that we are is an awareness that is consciousness of itself that recognises itself and is not the body, the mind, a sensation, an emotion, the voice in our head, the impression of the tone of the voice in my head, the personality etc.

Conclusion

When we really know what we are then of course we know then that we are not the ego and then of course we have the reason to separate from it. Because we have the understanding that that psychological entity which is trying to get us to adopt its identity is false and does not have a true identity by itself from its own side. It has according to Buddhism a false identity or a dependent identity that is set up depending on other things, principally thought.

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Separation from the Ego II (190)

Introduction

Separation is where we comprehend that what is bothering us is really an ego and not something else. And that the ego is not us. Separation is really a sort of comprehension it is to comprehend that the ego is not us or is not the consciousness.

Separating

To do separation well we really have to know what the hell we are. We have to know and comprehend that we are the consciousness that what we are is space, is awareness and is nothing. In the sense of no “I”.

Conclusion

The Tibetan Buddhists are great in this sense because they destroy the “I”. The consciousness is not an “I”. The ego cannot recognise itself, it follows from the biblical saying, “the darkness did not recognise the darkness”.

To separate from every ego is a slow awakening and to be awakened is to be able to separate from every “I”.

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Separation from the Ego I (189)

Introduction

This is such an important stage in the dissolution of the ego without it we go nowhere.

Techniques to Separate from the Ego

Some techniques that we can use to separate from the ego are:

Knowing the Ego Beforehand

When we know the ego well, we know when it will come. We get to know the ego by having observed it for so many years.

When we can predict that it will come or when we see that it appears as a reaction, that is when it appears mechanically and later disappears we have some separation. This separation comes from the understanding that we see it as something mechanical as something is that is not us as something that lives in our psychology, as something that we carry around with us, but not us because we don’t assign to ourselves its mechanical qualities.

A Beast Living in our Head

When we understand that it is like a beast or a creature living in our head. We can separate when we don’t need it. When we know we can do without it. The thing that it gives you, you can do without. We also need some death to be able to separate as well.

Obstacles

What are some of the obstacles to separating from the ego? The main one is really the hypnotic grip of the ego.

Two Ways to Separate from the Ego

There are two ways one is a global way and the other is an particular or general way. Separation is to break the hypnotic grip. The hypnotic grip is tackled with the key of contrast. Contrast is the same key as the questioning oneself. We have some truth and we have to contrast what we are thinking against the truth that we know.

Hypnotic Grip

There when we are working on separation we really face the hypnotic grip of the ego. In fact that is the obstacle for us to be able to separate from the ego it is the hypnotic grip. The most important step in the dissolution of the ego is separation.

Conclusion

We have to see that in separation there is a great deal of definition. It is really there where we decide that we want to eliminate the ego. In fact without separation we can’t do anything in relation to the ego.

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Lust is an Interpretation of Sensations (188)

Introduction

There is a point here to do with the work on lust. Our sexual centre by itself issues sensations. These sensations are expressions of its own vitality.

Sensations Appear

These sensations can apparently appear for no outside reason, or in other words they can appear when there no outside stimulation is present. They basically appear because the sexual energy is accumulating or building and it is showing us that.

We Can’t Stop it

We can’t stop this force expressing itself, though what we can do is modify the way we interpret it, and of course we can chose what this energy is used for or where or what it is channeled into.

Interpretations

A very common interpretation of this spontaneous manifestation of force is that we need to have sex. We though, have to ask ourselves, is it true that those sensations mean I need to have sex? Obviously not, it is not true, but what is truer from the Gnostic point of view or from the conscious management of our sexual energy point of view is that we have to channel this force or energy, we have to use it for something, and something positive – all the better for us!

Conclusion

There are so many other interpretations that we can give to these sensations and they basically all have to be honestly and scrupulously questions and the true answer sought for every question we ask ourselves. The truth can only be found within ourselves.

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Knowing Your Impulses (187)

Introduction

There are many impulses in us, one of them is the impulse for the new, to know, to experience what is new. This impulse just like so many within us if channeled or directed correctly can be marvelous. However, if channeled incorrectly it can be devastating.

Impulse to Experience the New

That impulse to experience the new can lead us to study to meditate to explore ourselves and experience the joy of a new discovery about nature, life, esotericism and ourselves. The problem is that we have to be aware of that impulse. Know that it is something that comes from beyond the mind.

Not Aware of Impulse

When we are not aware of that impulse we have a problem, we think that we are that thing (i.e. that impulse). We should see within us that that impulse is fine, the only problem is that it can be taken by the egos within us - principally, by lust and materialism.

That divine impulse when it is taken by the ego, is taken into matter. So we buy new things, we search for the sensation of new material objects, the new sensation of having something new and discovering what it can do and then with lust it is all about new sensations and new fractionings of one’s sexuality.

Conclusion

This is just one example of the many impulses that we have. The general work is to be able to discover the impulse and it’s origin and then clean it. This applies very importantly and directly to the sexual impulse that we have.

In this we have awakening first then death. The awakening is to discover and realize this impulse as something that comes from beyond the mind and to see it as natural as something divine and then death comes into play, when we start to remove the egos that latch onto it and are responsible for dirtying it and putting it into relativity and duality and also into matter.

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Fear of Being in Creation (186)

Introduction

Gnostically speaking, we have been thrust into creation, where we are subject to much pain and suffering and so much dependence and impermanence, our situation here is really dependent upon so many factors and we are so weak, we are so fragile, our body and our health can change for the worst with only a small incident. The human condition is very fragile.

The Way we take All of This

We instinctively perceive this, when we say instinctively we mean that we perceive it in our gut and not necessarily with our mind, but on a deeper more visceral level. We perceive the impermanence of everything here, the ever changeability of everything here. However the problem arises in us when we psychologically make a base or a reality or an identity out of this impermanent and fragile condition.

This becomes a problem because a part of us deep within maybe unknown to us perhaps, in our subconscious, knows that all is impermanent, but then on the other hand we begin to make a dependence or a base on that solidity and then these two opposites makes us to start to suffer because a clash is produced in us. We have fear because our subconscious knows that we will suffer if we make a base on impermanent things. We feel that fear because we are doing something wrong for and within ourselves.

We are an Essence

We have to see that we are essence really, that that is what we are. The essence is something that is there inherent by itself existing on its own side. It is not dependent.

Conclusion

We have to understand that in creation in the chaos much can happen to us and our health, what we enjoy in terms of the body in its nature will and has to disappear, it has to by law go. Though, the essence in us is the one that is permanent and does not get lost, it’s nature does not change unlike the body and everything else in this world.

We also feel fear that we can’t control chaos, we can’t control this nature of impermanence and something that is ever-changing. In conclusion we have to be more and more essence.

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Some Issues that Make Us Oversensitive (185)

Introduction

This post includes describes some of the issues that can make us quite sensitive in our psychology and of course when these sensitive buttons in us are touched we react quite strongly.

We are not Loved

We could feel that and perhaps this issue of not being loved brings us to a state of worry and any other impressions that we receive after that we could take in a way that the other person does not love us, makes us very reactive.

We are scared about losing someone or the love of someone, because we need them for something. It could be that without them we feel that we can’t be happy in life, that we can’t do someone sort of task or job, like raise the children, run a business etc. etc. The Question is that we Think that we Need them.

Why Does it Hurt not Being Loved?

Lets go into not being loved. Why does it hurt when think that we are not loved? We don’t demand love from everybody but we may demand that people in general like us or we may even demand neutrality. Certainly we never demand that people dislike or hate us.

It is like we are missing something when others dislike us or don’t want us. We feel a sense of failure, that something didn’t go right or well for this to happen. We can’t deny past lives though and mechanical antipathy in others and the egos or defects of other people which we are not responsible for. We have a sense though that we have to do something to make it right, that it is a burden that it is a stone in our shoes that we have to smooth over.

Our Pride is the Culprit

It is our Pride that gets upset when we are not treated respectfully. We have a belief that we should be treated respectfully. When we are not we try to confront it or correct. We think immediately that there is something wrong with me. That what I am is not worthy of respect that I am guilty of something. So I need to balance it, that is the way that we try to bring a solution, we balance it either outside (disrespecting the person back) or inside of ourselves, by seeing that we are not diminished, that we are not the perception that we have of ourselves.

Why do to deal with that and others don’t have to, that people dislike me. To feel first and above others to feel cosy and warm and loved. What about to feel loved without the feeling of being more loved or the favourite. Not to take that love into relativity. The problem comes when we feel loved less and that is what pride is all about.

Relative Love or Love with Pride

We have created a lot of these loves on being relative on being the most or best to the person. We may do many things that we think are things that others can not do for them, so we should get the most love the best of everything from them.

The result is that we have set up that relationship based on pride, that we are the best giver and friend and lover to that person and so naturally we demand that they see things that way too. We have a belief that we should be seen that way. However, that is not true, we may but we can’t guarantee that others do. We have our relationship with that person based on the fact that we are the best for them that we do the most and that we are the best. The ones most worthy for or of their love and so we try to control things so that that happens or that they see things that way. We even try to control their way of seeing us and we get very jealous and we have the belief that we should be given the most attention.

Conclusion

So our relationship has been set up on the best and not on love. We have to transcend that of not having to be more. Allow the love that we have to give and if it is more than ok. Sometimes it won’t be. We think that if I don’t give more I won’t be liked. That is not true.

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Taking Things Relatively – Being Oversensitive (184)

Being Oversensitive

There are times in our life where we can become very sensitive and as a consequence of that we react to the slightest provocation.

The reactions could be outwardly directed as in an angry outburst or they could be inward where we really feel upset, hurt and worried. One example of when we become quite sensitive psychologically speaking is when we

It is quite strange because on the other hand we can be at other times indifferent to the remarks and actions of others and only suffer very slightly if anything at all.

Being Sensitive – Is it Good?

Being sensitive in relation to others can be good, that is to be quick on the uptake to when somebody is getting upset or angry or disagrees with something, that has been said, gives us the chance to direct the outcome in such a way that it will be favourable for both. On the other hand being  sensitive towards ourselves can be terrible, because any small detail can worry us, anger us or even depress us. So, in general it is better to be sensitive to others and insensitive where it comes to ourselves.

Conclusion

When we are sensitive there is something in our background. There is a belief or an issue there. The issue could be that we are not loved or treated with respect, or it could be someone that we love is not treated well by others. We in short have to find that issue and then work intensely on it. The posts that follow after this one I hope will be of some use to you. The following posts address some of the issues that can result in us being oversensitive.

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Anger, Self-Image then Impatience (183)

Anger – Role of Convincer

When others think poorly of us and after some talking and some explaining on our part, it is still apparent that they still think the same of us, anger comes to force them to change their way of thinking about us. So anger plays the role of convincer and mind you without something in us having been hurt or exasperated first, anger would not have come.

Anger – Verbal Violence

Anger comes most likely not in the form physical violence but in more frequently in verbal violence where usually we make threats. Threats that scare the person and out of fear they change their mind.

Anger – Because we Lack Patience

Anger comes to try to use force to get the result as quickly as possible because we know that if we don’t use anger we have to be very patient and wait for the facts to come out and show the person that we are not that bad or for the person to forget about our mistake and relate to us normally again.

Conclusion

With good reason it has been said that patience is the mother of all virtue. Certainly with patience we will would not get exasperated in the situation where people unjustly think ill of us, or deservedly think bad of us and it will take time for us to correct our wrong doing an improve our status in their eyes.

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Order of Working with the Being (182)

Tree of Life

If we look at the Kabbalistic tree or the tree of life we can gleam the relationship that exists between the various parts of the Being on the tree of life.

Reaching Kether

The Intimate or Jesed is joined to his Father who is Kether. So if we want to reach Kether we should concentrate on Jesed or our Intimate or our Atman or our Spirit.

Reaching Atman or Jesed/Chesed

If we want to reach Atman, Chesed or our Intimate we can concentrate on our human soul as they are the Being or they constitute the Being. The three join together to be one. This happens for real at the end of the first major initiation where Buddhi and Atman or Geburah and Chesed join together to become one.

Reaching Chockmah

To reach Chockmah we can concentrate on our intimate Christ and to reach our intimate Christ we can concentrate on our human soul, because, the human soul is the human face of our intimate Christ.

Conclusion

It is convenient to say at this point that he Being is Atman, Buddhi, Manas and the Monad is Kether, Chockmah and Binah. Coincidentally to reach Binah we can concentrate on the Divine Mother.

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Anxiety Due to Criticism (181)

Introduction

One of the reasons behind the anxiety we feel when dealing with others is our tendency to take things in an overall manner. I’ll explain.

Our problem is that we have a tendency to make identities of ourselves in our minds and then we believe in that identity and assume it to be our real or true identity.

Now lets get more down to real life.

Anxious About Criticism

When we identify with the words of others telling us that we are really bad we unavoidably suffer. One of the many ways in which we suffer is anxiety.

The problem lies in that we adopt in an absolute way the words of others or our own internal words as who we are and so when we do that the new yet false identity that we have adopted is taken to be an overall, condemning, damning and inescapable statement of who we are. 

When we feel that unavoidable, condemning, damning, no way out, will be forever thought we feel anxious. We feel anxious because we conclude in our mind that being like that is to never be happy and to always be in pain or either it means the things will change and those changes will bring pain to our life.

We have many bases in our life and when we perceive that some bases or points of psychological support are being pulled out from underneath us we suffer by feeling anxious. The point with these bases is that they are psychological and they are used by us to feel that we are good or worthy or that we can feel happy, or at peace because we are doing well in life or that we are doing the right thing. We have the thought that if we are liked, loved and appreciated by others we are doing the right thing in life and so we can relax, and be happy and proud of ourselves.

Conclusion

We feel anxious because we feel that something is going to end or die and the problem is that psychologically speaking we have assumed ourselves to be that very thing that is going to die or end. From there comes the anxiety.

We also feel anxious because if that thing does end we don’t think we will be able to cope with it ending or being finished.

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Anxiety Due to Relationship Breakdowns (180)

Introduction

One of the reasons behind the anxiety we feel when dealing with others is our tendency to take things in an overall manner. I’ll explain.

Our problem is that we have a tendency to make identities of ourselves in our minds and then we believe in that identity and assume it to be our real or true identity.

Now lets get more down to real life.

Anxious About Relationship Breakdowns

Have you ever felt anxious when someone that you are in a relationship with is upset with you and there is the feeling in the air that the person may stop trusting, liking and loving you and perhaps even leave you.

A very powerful reason behind this is that we assume ourselves to be that relationship, and when it seems as though it is ending we are ending as well. We feel fear because we think that we are going to end or that we are going to lose something.

We often say “I don’t know what I am going to do”, “I need you”, “I have no reason to live”, “I can’t live without you”. The remedy to all this is to know that we are not that relationship, we are many other things.

Our relationships are a part of our life, it occupies a part of our mind, emotions and actions though it is not fundamentally us we are rather a human being than a relationship. The fundamental reason for us living is not to be part of that relationship, it is something greater and more fundamental that encompasses that relationship but is not and is not limited to be that relationship. We are endowed with life and the reason why we have life is in the same life that we have within, the same force of life that makes our heart to beat.

Conclusion

We feel anxious because we feel that something is going to end or die and the problem is that psychologically speaking we have assumed ourselves to be that very thing that is going to die or end. From there comes the anxiety.

We also feel anxious because if that thing does end we don’t think we will be able to cope with it ending or being finished.

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Antidote to Identification (179)

Self-remembering is really the antidote to identification. Because with self-remembering we remember who we truly are and doing that keeps us from adopting any false identities.

The fundamental base of self-remembering is really knowing or having experienced our consciousness or our Being. We have to as an imperative know that we are the essence or the consciousness.

Once we know that we just have to remember that that is what we truly and really are. This is the start of real self-remembering. Self-remembering advances more and more, as we get to know ourselves in our inner Divinity or Real Being or true self, the more we self-realise the more we know ourselves or the deeper is our 

self-remembering.

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How We Should Take Criticism (178)

Introduction

The best way to take criticism is to take a balanced position. Always be balanced in the face of criticism.

Some Home Truths about Criticism

Here are some truths about criticism that are very useful to remember. When you are being criticised, or know that you are going to be criticised or that you have just been criticised reading these truths will help you.

·         We can use it to improve ourselves. Because of that it can have a good outcome.

·         Not all criticism has to be constructive.

·         We have to be open to both types of criticism: constructive and non-constructive criticism.

·         There is some truth in it.

·         There is something false or exaggerated in it.

·         Disregard the ill-will component of criticism. Don’t allow yourself to be hurt by the ill-will you perceive coming from the other person.

·         It is only ever about a facet or aspect of your life. It is not about the whole of you.

·         We get hurt when criticised because we feel others don’t love us.

·         We get angry when criticised because we feel that we are perfect or beyond error or that our errors should not be talked about or corrected.

This list of trues about criticism is very important because understanding them deeply allows us to stop the criticism from invading the totality of our system. Don’t let the criticism become too large or big and spread into every area of our life. Because in truth, it only pertains to a small area of our life. If we let it go into every area of our life then that is where we enter to depression.

Conclusion

Reading the list after we have been criticised will helps us to neutralise the hurt or offense or disappointment that we feel when we get criticised. It will also turn us toward the active of correcting the faults in ourselves that attracted the criticism. Usually we hit the floor and don’t feel any energy or drive what so ever to correct our faults that brought about the criticism.

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Trust and Faith in the Being (177)

Trust in Him

We may try to arrange things in our life by ourselves and the agents in us that will do it, will be the egos, and they of course may get it wrong. Actually often they do. Sometimes it can be so obvious that with the ego we can get something that we need for life or for the work so easily.

We may know well that it is the ego doing it then the call of faith comes in. Have to have faith in the Being that he will organise it for us that he will bring to us whatever it is that we need to work spiritually for Him or that we really need in our human life.

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Pride a Relative Sense of Justice (176)

Pride - a Relative Correction of a Previous Imbalance

We know that what pride really is, is the sense of dignity and balance of the Being distorted by relativity. Pride always looks to compensate or correct an imbalance. The problem is that it does it against others and in favour of ourselves, so it is the correction of an imbalance made in relativity.

Unfair

If we feel that something is unfair our pride won’t be long in appearing. We will feel the unfairness, the hurt, the rejection etc. we can go with Pride and fight, however, we can put the action of balancing the unfairness and the loss of dignity in the Being’s hands and allow him to arrange the affairs so that what is fair and just appears.

Conclusion

In conclusion, that is the key, to put the unfairness in the hands of the Being. We need however patience to do it. We need to wait. When we wait anyway a process goes to fruition, we give time for the Being to arrange things correctly for us. That is the right thing to do, surrender the issue into the hands of the Being and just wait, patiently that is, with true endurance which is a strength of the soul or essence.

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Wise Use of Time and Space (175)

Introduction

The way to use time wisely is to make the time we have productive, to use it for something related to the development of our consciousness or in something that will bring a positive result to us.

Do not Compartmentalise Time

Another point is to not compartmentalise time. We divide our whole life into compartments where we behave in certain ways and enjoy ourselves or not enjoy ourselves and so on. We should make our whole life one.

It is the mind that makes compartments and it is the one that says we can enjoy ourselves now because in a minute this activity will be finished. Usually that activity is one of the work on ourselves, a bit sad isn’t it. The very thing that liberates us makes us unhappy?

Make our Life our Work

The advantage of making our work all one in our life, means that we can work anytime in whatever activity we are doing and so we are not waiting for something to finish or start or dreading that something will finish.

It requires some work actually to make our whole life one in the work and stop compartmentalising our life. Actually making compartments in our life is to suffer because being in relativity we say this compartment is better than the other one and to be in one compartment that is not as good as the other one means that we are going to suffer a little.

Living in the Moment Unifies

An important key to make our life one big compartment rather than many small ones is to live in the moment, see each moment as an compartment that makes up your whole life and if we value each moment we will not value the moment in one compartment more than the moments in another compartment.

Conclusion

Live the Moment! It has so many benefits! It is actually all that we have!

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Taking Things Absolutely is Harmful (174)

Why We Suffer

In life we suffer for many reasons. One of those reasons is because we take things as an absolute. By ‘things’ we basically mean the words of other people and the outcomes of the various events of our life.

What Does “in an absolute way” Mean?

The best way to describe what “in an absolute” way means, is to give you an example. However before we do, we would like to say that in a general sense to take something “in an absolute way” means to take something small that relates to small aspect of our life as the whole of ourselves.

The Example

When we for example, are told in a harsh tone that we are “useless at time management” we may suffer, by feeling sad, anxious, humiliated, low or even angry and filled with the desire to convince the person that they are wrong. A very powerful factor behind this suffering especially the feeling of anxiety is that we see that we believe the person’s words that we are bad and then we assume ourselves as a whole or as an absolute factor to be bad. In other words we let something small that only pertains to a facet of ourselves to spread and take over our whole feeling or perception of ourselves.

The Truth

The truth is that we have many facets to our life and any judgement that we may make of ourselves and for that matter any judgement that others make about us only pertain to an aspect of our life. Even if a person makes a general overall statement about us, it is still only because of one aspect of our life is good or bad. Usually people make such statements when we did something belonging to a certain aspect our and their life that they didn’t agree with. Other people can experience us as a whole, they only experience us in a certain circumstance and aspect of our life.

We are definitely not all bad! The truth is we have our weaknesses or defects and our strengths or good points. Everyone is like that, even the worst criminal has some good points.

What do you think? Is that true? We are definitely not all bad? We can assume ever that we are totally rotten to the core useless or bad. If we do then we guaranteed will suffer!

The other aspect to this truth, is that any judgment is relative, meaning that any judgement that we make of ourselves or others make about us is a comparison. Compared to something or someone else we are not so good. But compared to someone else or something else we are quite good. So we can never allow ourselves to believe in overall judgments whether others make them or we make them about ourselves.

Applying the Truth

If we really understand the points mentioned above we must use this understanding to stop ourselves from taking things in an absolute way. That is to stop ourselves from forming an overall identity of ourselves equal to the value expressed in others judgments or our own judgements about ourselves.

Identification

The problem with identity is that it can only ever be one and it represents the whole of ourselves. For example we can only ever be one nationality at a given point in time, or we can’t be a women and a man at the same time. So we really have to be careful when we identify ourselves we something, because that can very easily lead to suffering.

In life people identify themselves with some many silly things. The best thing to do is to find out who we really, truly, fundamentally are and then allow that to be our identity.

Summary

In summary, it is important to know that we ourselves always assign ourselves some sort of identity. In other words we are always thinking that we are something, that “I am this or that”. The point is to not believe in that statement that we make in our mind that we are something bad. Why, you may ask.

The reason is that the truth is we are not bad as a whole but bad only say in a certain aspect of life. Of course everything can be corrected and so if we work at improving this aspect of our life we will become so to speak good in that area. So never allow yourself to believe overall, absolute statements about yourself. The only absolute statement we can know to be true about ourselves is what we really are and that is a spiritual esoteric matter which I am planning to write about in the future so stay tuned.

I would also like to say that we have to be very tough with ourselves at times in not allowing ourselves to believe in an identity that others form for us or we form for ourselves. We have to drum those truths deep into our mind until we believe them in the deeper subconscious levels of our mind.

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The Importance of the Sexual Energy (173)

Sexual Energy is a Gift

We ignore this side to do with our sexual energy. That is the sexual energy we have is given to us a gift. It can be easily taken away from us. It can be used to regenerate ourselves and come closer to our inner Divinity where by our difficulties, hardship and suffering will be but a shadow. Certainly for this to happen it is a great gift of God. We as human beings are not denied sexual energy because we need it to reproduce and keep creation and nature (life on this planet and the life of the planet) going, but we don’t all have the gift to approach our inner Divinity and that is why we have lust, because misuses the sexual energy we are given.

How Sexual Energy is Normally Used

We use the sexual energy to generate sexual sensations, and when we start to feel those sensations we combine them with emotions and thoughts that we find satisfying and pleasing. It is really these thoughts and emotions that we add onto the sexual sensations that at some point along the line cause us grief.

We actually can go to the point of being totally driven to get sexual sensations so to fulfil the ideal of these thoughts and emotions that come from ourselves and that we combine with our sexual sensations.

When we Desire

When we are desiring some sort of sexual activity, notice that there is some sort agitation in our sexual centre or sexual organs and there is also some emotion and some words or images in our mind related to that sexual desire. In other words any sexual desire is not really only sexual it is triple, in the sense that it has a sexual component, an emotional component and an intellectual component.

We can explore, investigate the intellectual and emotional components and change them. If we change them, then as you’ll see the sexual sensations will change as well but most importantly the idea or the plan of how we decide to get those sexual sensations will change. We may even see that those thoughts and emotions are really only mirages and that we don’t need those mirage desires fulfilled. The problem with us is that in our mind we think that we need those desires to be fulfilled. This article is about looking into precisely that.

Natural Impulse is Always There we Just have to Channel Them

There is a point here that, the sexual force that everyone has will also be there and there will always be the natural sexual impulse. There will also be times when it increases. This is a given, this will always happen. So we need to be strong in order to not be taken by the bubbling sensations of our sexual energy and go and increase the sensations and end up losing our sexual energy. But much more importantly we need a way to move and channel that sexual energy into something else that has a more constructive and positive outcome for us. This is a hidden knowledge that not everyone has access to and really makes a lot of sense and helps immensely.

Conclusion

Now, let’s look into the intellectual and emotional component that we add onto our sexual impulses and sensations. There is commonly the thought that we mix in with the whole desire question and it is: “I need to do this”, “I need to have sex”, “I need to do this in sex” etc. The next question we have to ask ourselves is: “do I really need it”. If we are honest we know that we don’t have to do that we have just channel our sexual energy and for this we need to practice the transmutation of the sexual energy. Breathe in deeply imagining and willing the sexual energy in our sexual organs to become energy and move up our spine and then into our brain and heart. Doing this several times, actually sometimes many times will channel  our sexual energy and decrease our impulses and desires.

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Sex: Regenerates, Generates or Degenerates (172)

Introduction

This post says that sex has the power to degenerate a person. It also has the power to regenerate a person and it has the power to generate i.e. reproduction, procreation etc.

Our Fate Depends on Our Use of Sex

Being conscious of this truth we can choose our fate, all depending on our use of the sexual energy. If we use sex according to superior spiritual principles we can regenerate ourselves, but if we use sex normally we reproduce, but if we use sex according to inferior principles we will degenerate ourselves. Those inferior principles are namely lust and all its various branches.

Conclusion

Why not decide to regenerate yourself, to do so you have to learn about suprasex and the transmutation of the sexual energy.

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Sex and Lust are Very Different (171)

Sex is not Lust

This post makes the point that sex is very different to lust. We always make the mistake of thinking lust and sex are the same.

Consequence

The consequence of this is to then think that sex is dirty because we see lust as dirty or wrong. But that is not so. If we make this separation we will see that sex can be managed without lust.

New Possibilities Open Up

Then many possibilities open up for us, namely the spiritual use of sex. Without making this separation the spiritual use of sex is very difficult or impossible. This separation will help us to relate correctly with sex and know what sex really is and also to gain insight into the mysteries of sex.

Conclusion

We can dissolve lust, and still use sex. We can in fact use the power of sex to dissolve lust, which is a psychological structure. We can only do this if we separate lust from sex!

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To Order our Sexual Energy is to Order our Life (170)

Sexual Energy – Our Fundament

This post says that the sexual energy in the human being is the most fundamental energy in the human being’s body, psychology and spiritual aspect.

Ordered Sexual Energy

Therefore, if we relate correctly to it and have it functioning in an organised and ordered way in our life the rest of our inner functioning and life will also be ordered and harmonious. If our sexual energy is out of control then our spiritual, psychological and physical life will also be out of control and full of difficulty and hardship.

Conclusion

If we keep our sexual energy calm and channel into the correct channels then the functioning amongst our various psycho-physiological centres (i.e. intellect, emotion, motor and instinct) will be ordered and so will our life be.

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Transmutation of the Sexual Energy (169)

Sexual Energy

This post informs us that the human being has sexual energy in the form of a semi liquid semi-solid substance (i.e. seminal entity) and that substance can be moved out (ejaculation) or much better, moved inwards.

Moving sexual Energy Inwardly

However, for this substance to be moved inwards it must be transformed or transmuted into energy and then it can move inside the body and be absorbed by the body. This is the transmutation of the sexual energy.

Conclusion

If there is a channel to go out there is also a channel for the sexual energy to go inwards.

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The Senses and Lust (168)

Introduction

There are certain body parts that lust likes. This is undeniable. We don’t like to admit it, but it exists within us, or at least there is a certain preference of one part of the body to another.

For men the breasts and the buttocks are great fascination. Why? We can analyse this and see that both of these parts are round and symmetrical. In other words they both immediately please the visual sense. What is round, smooth, shiny and proportional pleases or attracts the visual sense.

Senses Convey Information

Each sense also gives us certain bits of information, and in turn these bits of information are interpreted by the mind or to be exact it is the ego in the mind that interprets them.

Desire and Memory

Desire is based on the memory of pleasure and the yearning of the senses for pleasure. Because the senses are pleased and they make the mind know that they are pleased. The senses are connected to our mind through the layer of the sensual mind, which is the outermost layer.

What Pleases the Tactile and Visual Sense

So smoothness pleases the touch sense. The data from the visual sense indicates to the mind that the tactile sense will be pleased. Also the visual sense indicates to the mind the taste sense will be pleased or not pleased. The most important sense here is really the visual sense, and to lust it is absolutely crucial. Because through the visual sense lust knows that the other senses will be pleased, and most importantly it determines the sexual sense or organs will be pleased.

The Issue – Senses and the Mind

The problem is that the way the touch sense entices the mind is by using imagination, it has to create a scenario for us to in our imagination go and experience the object of desire and that way using our imagination appeal to our sexual sensations.

Main Senses for Lust

The main senses for lust are the eyes, touch and hearing. Hearing conveys essentially the information that enjoyment is being produced. So it produces in us psychological sensations that drive us forward.

The visual sense and the tactile sense work very much with the instinctive centre.

Interpretation of the Senses

Symmetry and proportion also appeal to our visual sense. The more perfectly symmetrical the more our visual sense is pleased and the interpretation is that we will be comforted or abundantly. Usually with abundance we feel comfortable or secure, with little we do not feel comfortable or secure on the contrary we feel worried and anxious. So large buttocks and breasts, inspire such sensations in a person, that in turn create emotions. The emotion that the pleasure or satisfaction of the senses implies is what pleases us or gets us hooked. When we feel abundance and security we are attracted and hooked, when we feel the opposite we are repelled.

Conclusion

Know what pleases your senses and understand how it relates to lust and then observe and study how your mind interprets that information from the senses. Know that that the senses are not evil or dirty they are just as they are. They perceive according to their nature. The part that needs correction is what is done by our mind with the information that they the senses provide.

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Observed Disadvantages of Being (167)

Introduction

When we are upset because of the way they think about us we get angry at them and think negatively about them and stop loving them. Actually it is good to observe that our love is conditional, i.e. relative because it depends on them feeling positive towards us. So freeing ourselves from the dependency will take us to love them in a way that is closer to unconditional love.

Getting Angry

We get angry because we want to correct their way of thinking towards us. We see that we can’t change their way of thinking towards us so we use anger to do it which is a blind force. We make threats in anger all so that we can force them to change their way of thinking.

The Key

The key here seems to take away their importance that we have placed upon them in our mind. That solves the first observation, if we see them as everyone else as important as everyone else, we will feel differently. Then the thought appears I will not love them as much. The truth is that I will love them the same or even better if I detach from the exaggerated importance I am placing on them.

Love in Relativity

My feeling towards them is conditioned by seeing myself loving them more than I love others, if I see myself doing this I believe I love them. However I only believe I love them when I see that I love them more than I love others but sometimes this is empty. Because I do this, I demand it from them as well. I only think that they love me when I see them loving me more than others or doing more things for me than they do for others. That is what I call love, but is that really love? It is not, real love includes all! Only love in relativity loves others excluding others, which as you are probably discovering only brings suffering.

This is to put love into relativity. So is that true that I can only love another person if I love them more than I love others? This is not really true? This discovery is a big one, it is the belief behind so many things and problems that we have in relationships.

What is in the heart can come out, and we must face that without fear. Sometimes the love for others comes out more than the love for those we are meant to love, and we may due to fear suppress it, because we think they will be jealous of us and then get angry with us and stop loving us. So if we have to show to ourselves that to love we need to do more for certain people, that then means also that we need to do less for other people, which means most of the time in practical events to exclude or ignore those others, which is not really loving them.

An Example of Forcing Love

Sometimes the opinions of others can convince us, and that can lead to trouble later on in our life. We may do for example a certain activity because we were impressed by someone doing it and we want to be a good musician for example. As we know that we are not really made up to be a musician and that our talents lie in other places that we for some reason don’t want to accept we try hard to convince ourselves that we have made it as a good musician. However, we only think that we have made it as a good musician once others say that we have made it. We need others to say that we have made it because we know that we are not. And somehow down the line we have created something in our mind that it depends so much to the point that we are not worthy if we are not a good musician in life, that that is everything in our life. We have to find what we have in our heart. Usually in this type of false or forced relationship we suffer indescribably because we know that we can never be that and that it is not in our nature.

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When Our Ego of Self-Esteem is Hurt by Those we Love (166)

Introduction

I’m not sure if this is the correct name for this ego that in the following paragraphs I am going to describe. The aim of this article is to describe this ego and to prise it apart so to provide ourselves with an in-depth understanding of it that will produce in us separation from it. Being able to separate from it means we have broken its hypnosis.

A Curious Observation

The first observation of this ego is that the same impressions received from someone don’t hurt whereas the impressions received from someone else really hurt and bother us, where these impressions that hurt are essentially being words, gestures and tone of voice. Therefore this ego is relative to certain people.

Dependant on Others…

In our mind we have put a lot of emphasis on these people. It has happened that we have made the way we think about ourselves relative or dependent upon the way these people think or feel about us. If they think ill of us we can not be at peace. We become very restless and eager to correct the way they think about us. In the relationship with these people we make great efforts to make sure these people think and feel positively about us. We wish that they treasure us and hold us in high esteem. We often fantasize about that thinking about how much we are important to them, how much they like and depend upon our help and presence. All the time it may be that we are the ones that depend upon them. They are usually the ones that can be very honest with us and we are not because we are scared to be honest because it will destroy the image that they have of us and then they will think negatively about us.

Even working on this we feel that we are going not to be so close to them or that something bad will happen in the relationship like a break up or something like that. Even we may be working on this to protect ourselves in the case that there is a break up and that we will not suffer so much.

Waking Up in the Morning Feeling Awful?

If there is some sort of an argument or we form in our mind the thought that they are not happy with us we wake up in the morning feeling very uncomfortable and nervous. It is like whatever we are in not valid, we have thoughts that in a sorry for ourselves way, in a kind of self-destructive way start to destroy things around us thinking that they are not good or not really first class as we usually think we think that they are all useless. In other words we project our negativity onto ourselves, and others and things around us that are dear to us. All this comes from the fact that we now see ourselves negatively just like we suppose the other person sees us. Everything else seems second rate or lesser importance, the love that comes from others that is not that person is not important or is second rate.

If those people are Gnostic people that we are dependent upon we think that everything else is second rate or not important because we have made Gnosis to be the most important thing in our mind above everything else. But we have to understand that the love that comes from others is the same love that comes from those who are in Gnosis. It is the same essence the same Being loving.

Ending Statement – the Other Person is NOT Everything

There is a lot of Pride in this internal state that causes us so much grief. The love of the other person seems so important that it seems to be everything. This is a good time to question that, is that true? Obviously not we have the Being! That is what is more important to us than anything else. If we did not have the Being we would not be, but if we did not have the other person we would of course still be, we would still be alive. What we have done is make the tremendous mistake of substituting another person for our own Being!

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Relationships (165)

Introduction

Every relationship has a beginning and an end. Every relationship is temporary. Even they can last a long time, there will come the time that it will end or be modified or start a new phase. This is a truth.

The Tricky Part

What is dangerous in us is that we try very hard to keep it going as if it were never to change. That I’m afraid is our illusion that we very costly try to keep alive.

Relationships are Dependent Arising

No relationship exists even by itself, all relationships are dependent arising’s. They depend on certain factors. To surrender to the fact that it may change, to surrender to this truth is at first scary and there is much resistance.

Why do we get scared? It can’t be impermanent, it can’t finish, it has to keep on going that is what the mind says and this produces a lot of angst and desperation. Why are we so adamant that the relationship should not change or end? Because we see that it is us that it is everything in my life.

Conclusion

Is that true that it (a relationship) is a big part of my life? Yes relatively, is it everything? No I still breathe, life still enters me, I was born independently not sown together to another person, born by myself.

When I was born and had life I didn’t even have this relationship so how can it be me or be all there is to me? It is part of my life but it is not everything or all of me or my life. Understanding this puts each relationship into perspective.

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Characteristics of the Motor Centre (164)

Introduction

The motor centre is a very important part of our physical life. In fact if our motor centre were shut down, our physical life would really stop. It is certainly for the benefit of our physical life worth studying the motor centre, because it is really our physical life and what we do with it, gives us our results in life.

Learning

What we learn, is deposited in the motor centre. We have many actions and skills in the motor centre which have been intentionally taught to the motor centre. We are not born with them, though this is the case with the instinctive centre. The instinctive centre already comes with data built into it, whereas the motor centre does not have that data.

Memory

The motor centre has its own memory. That it how it remembers actions even when the mind forgets. We drive with this memory.

Sign of Physical Life

In relation to the physical world it is the most important centre. In fact movement which is controlled by the motor centre is one of the first signs of life.

The Word

The word belongs to the motor centre. What we say and don’t say brings us karmic consequences. We have to move to speak. No movement no speech.

Result of Intellect and Emotion

The motor centre is the depository of the intellect and the emotion or in other words it is the result of the intellectual and emotional centres. The body follows the mind. In fact the motor centre can work alone once it has the full data necessary to act programmed into it. Without motor memory the motor centre works with the intellect and emotion.

It is the slowest centre and it is found in the upper part of the spinal cord. We waste a lot of energy with the motor centre.

Third Man- Motor Centre Man

There are motor centre people who are great because they get things done. They are not so lazy in movement.

Ego in the Motor Centre

We have the ego in each centre, when the ego gets into the motor centre that is when it enters the physical world. That is when the process of cause and effect is unfolded for us in our favour or against us.

Observation

The motor centre is the first thing that we would start to observe. It is also the first thing that we learn to relax as well. Breathing is the motor centre.

Easiest Centre to Control

It is the easiest centre to control as well. It is what people can see about us and it is also our life, we are what our motor centre is. In other words we are what we do.

Energy of Motor Centre

The energy of the motor is related to age. It definitely has a peak, whereas the energy of the intellectual centre can last longer. It is in old age that the physicists and mathematicians of old seemed to have produced their best theories and work.

Conclusion

Use the motor centre in its orbit and make sure to never allow thinking to substitute action. Action is the motor centre and to act is the consciousness and it is what is practical in life.

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