Thursday 24 July 2014

Anxiety Due to Relationship Breakdowns (180)

Introduction

One of the reasons behind the anxiety we feel when dealing with others is our tendency to take things in an overall manner. I’ll explain.

Our problem is that we have a tendency to make identities of ourselves in our minds and then we believe in that identity and assume it to be our real or true identity.

Now lets get more down to real life.


Anxious About Relationship Breakdowns

Have you ever felt anxious when someone that you are in a relationship with is upset with you and there is the feeling in the air that the person may stop trusting, liking and loving you and perhaps even leave you.

A very powerful reason behind this is that we assume ourselves to be that relationship, and when it seems as though it is ending we are ending as well. We feel fear because we think that we are going to end or that we are going to lose something.

We often say “I don’t know what I am going to do”, “I need you”, “I have no reason to live”, “I can’t live without you”. The remedy to all this is to know that we are not that relationship, we are many other things.

Our relationships are a part of our life, it occupies a part of our mind, emotions and actions though it is not fundamentally us we are rather a human being than a relationship. The fundamental reason for us living is not to be part of that relationship, it is something greater and more fundamental that encompasses that relationship but is not and is not limited to be that relationship. We are endowed with life and the reason why we have life is in the same life that we have within, the same force of life that makes our heart to beat.


Conclusion

We feel anxious because we feel that something is going to end or die and the problem is that psychologically speaking we have assumed ourselves to be that very thing that is going to die or end. From there comes the anxiety.

We also feel anxious because if that thing does end we don’t think we will be able to cope with it ending or being finished.


End (180).

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