Thursday, 17 July 2014

A Particular Individual Related Aspect of Selfishness (162)

Introduction

There may be an instances in our life where we resent usually one person from taking or enjoying something that we buy for ourselves or for others. What’s strange we don’t resent a different person taking or enjoying something that we have bought for ourselves or for others. For example, we may buy a box of chocolates for ourselves and our mother and sister may take one and we feel ok with that however when our father takes one and we resent it.

Why do we have that feature in our psychology? The answer is in our mind, we must have a concept or way of thinking in our mind that disagrees with that particular person taking something from us or others.


Where do we Find the Answer?

The first place we have to investigate is our mind. Being honest we will find that there is something there in relation to that person. We may think that he/she doesn’t deserve it, that they are selfish, that he/she only takes and doesn’t give, that he/she are selfish, that that person will take all of it and we won’t be able to get more of it, that that person just likes to take and that is bad, we think that person should not want to take any of it etc. As always it is time to question each one of those thoughts.

When we question them honestly we will find that they are not true.


Conclusion

We ask others did they enjoy our gifts did they eat it or did they wear it. Why is that I wonder? Basically because we somewhere in our mind resented giving it to them, have a look at this, is it true? We also not like that our gifts are wasted. This happens many times and we have to be more aware when we give gifts. Anyhow if we give something sincerely with an open heart merits come to us even if the person never uses or appreciates what we give them.


End (162).

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