It is Found in Our Responses and not in How we are Treated
Real dignity is not found in how we are treated but in the
way we respond to being treated unfairly.
We often think that when others treat someone well that that
is dignity. Dignity is instead, something that lives within our essence and it
is a kind of strength, that contains
real will power and is an upward reaching within ourselves so to draw upon our
noblest thoughts, ideas and sentiments in the difficult moments of our lives.
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| See as in the above diagram, dignity is normally considered a right which everyone demands from everyone else. However in the psychological work sense, dignity is something that we in balance give to ourselves. In fact it is our own Being that gives dignity to Itself through Itself! |
What We Usually Always Demand from Others
We demand very often a respectful treatment from others, but
we never act with dignity when we are insulted.
The real dignity acts in us through our essence in the way
of allowing us and even making us respond to harsh treatment in a dignified
way.
To be insulted, shouted at, shoved or pushed, rejected,
expelled, thrown out, are some of the many harsh treatments that can come our
way. When in response to all of these harsh treatments: we cry, swear, storm
off, get upset, sulk, brood, reject, become irritated and aggressive or violent
we are losing our dignity.
What We Must Demand from Ourselves
We must demand dignity from ourselves in our reactions and
responses. Not from others in the way they treat us.
When we are insulted or rejected ask yourself, where is my
dignity? Then see yourself responding with dignity, returning a balanced, wise,
measured response, and above all, a response free of ill-will.
If we do this so much will change in us. We will gain more
of our real dignity and Being. We will not feel that we have lost something but
on the contrary we will feel that we have held ourselves together and have won
a little more of our values and therefore Being.
End (2216).
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