There is Even Duality and Relativity in our Thinking – (1295)

Introduction

With this post I want to bring to light that our thinking is conditioned by duality and relativity. The best way to do this is to use examples.

Example: “When Visiting and the Host doesn’t Say Hello”.

So imagine we are visiting a friend at their house and we get there and they don’t even say hello and walk off into another room. Then begins a flurry of thoughts, and we think such things as: “Do they want me here?”, “Maybe I should go?”, “I find that rude!”, “Is that person aware of what they just did?”, “I come here with good will, giving up my time, I mean no harm.”, “This is not going to be a good visit.” etc.

Where is the Relativity in These Thoughts?

The relativity is to interpret the action of the other in relation to, or in accordance with our concepts or in other words using our concepts as the reference point. Because we have the concept that it is polite to say hello, by duality we conclude that the person is rude and we then have thoughts that they are rude. Every other thought that arises in us comes because we interpret with reference to concepts, or memory, or the past or mental representations.

Where Should the Reference Point Be?

If we had no reference point by not having any of these concepts, or memories, or past or mental representations we would just think nothing, we would just move on and leave the behaviour in the person as belonging to them and not take their behaviour as something against us.

The reference point should be within ourselves. As soon as we begin to think about why they didn’t say hello we leave ourselves and we go into pure conjecture. Our reference point is to stay with reality and that is what we know to be true and that is only what is going on inside of ourselves.

When we put our reference point in ourselves we have to put it into our essence. If we are unsure how to do that, we can actually do quite well by just connecting to reality. By just sticking to what you really know.

If we feel that we lack something, it means that we are wanting something through another. We must give it to ourselves.

Where is the Duality in these Thoughts?

The duality is in the subconscious. It is where we project onto others what we ourselves have and we don’t realise it. We seem to be only seeing the fault in the other but we don’t see that the fault is in us. That in relativity it is truer that it is us that is more at fault.

Going back to the host who does not greet us example, when we have all these negative thoughts we don’t realise that we are projecting our content onto them, and we are actually being exactly what we are accusing them of being. We are the ones that are mean and rude, because in our mind we are being very mean and rude to them. We called them this and that in our mind and all they did, is to not say anything.

Conclusion

Our concepts and mental concept form the reference points for much of our thinking, and to remedy that we have to dissolve the concepts or either make our own consciousness the reference point. When we try to connect with what we know is real we are making our own consciousness the reference point.

The key of the hermetic seal, that is not touching anything with the internal tongue is a huge help there. That is what this practice is really about.

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