About Self-Worth and the Ego of Self-Importance – (1491)

Introduction

Self-worth actually exists. It exists in a relative form and in an absolute form. The relative form is the one that is at the core of the ego of self-importance. It is also the one that brings pain to us.

The absolute form is the better one. I tis the one generated from inside and it is the one that independent of people and circumstances and does not make you suffer.

Being Ignored

When someone ignores you or does not pamper you, the sentimental voice of self-importance says “don’t you know what I am worth to you? I am this and this to you, I am important to you, how can you treat me like this?”.

The Self-Worth that We Have

Here our self-worth or the worth that we have of ourselves waits to be validated by others. When it is validated we feel that we can then allow ourselves to feel that we are important to others and that we are valued and have a place in their lives, minds and hearts. Sounds nice doesn’t it? But to have that set-up inside of ourselves is pure bitterness, from my point of view it has to go!

When Ignored or Treated Badly – Go Straight to the Worth that you Generate by Yourself for Yourself

When you are ignored or given a low worth or are rejected or told to go away then we have to go to our worth that we generate and the worth that we generate is based on the fact that we have a Divinity dwelling within us and that we are an essence. That divinity dwelling within is the only thing that can ever complete us and it is the only thing that we really belong to. We don’t belong to others and others can not complete us or give to us what we lack. Only our Being can!

Please note, this true self-worth is not in relativity and duality and it does not end up making you to be better than anybody. If you feel like that you have got it wrong mate! Back to the drawing board!

Our Self-Worth

We can have an exaggerated self-worth or under-estimated self-worth or a realistic one. The realistic one is better. In such an appraisal of ourselves we have our virtues and our faults and we have the knowledge that we have a real Being or a Divinity dwelling inside of us and that is what gives us value and that is what makes of the same value of others, not more or less.

I find that this is the best self-worth to have and this self-worth must always be drawn upon in all the occasions of life. Especially when dealing with others.

Honestly Being is Ignored is Not Too Bad is it?

I am learning that it is not that bad to be ignored. No one reprimands you, or tells you that you are not doing very well and need to change this and that. You are left there in a quiet room with your thoughts or if you are smart, not to waste a good moment you are left alone so that you can practice, pray, look deep inside, chant a mantra, etc.

The Conscious Appreciation of Self-Worth is Powerful

If we really appreciate our inner Being, that respect and appreciation for our inner Being will naturally give us the force and awareness to say “to hell!” with some egos that will make us to suffer and make our life difficult or even degenerate us.

The more we work the higher our real self-worth will go, because we see more and more of our inner Being and the more force we will have to send the heavy egos and their plans and intentions far away from us.

Please just watch out not to create the above structure within yourself. Incorporate your Being into your self-worth as a Divinity like everyone else's Being and you will get it right. Divinity itself has everything, it is a ray of creation in miniature, it has all the values and virtues, just as does the Being or Divinity of everyone else.

For example, if we really had self-respect we would drop anger and resentment like a ‘ton of bricks”.

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