A General Rule
As a general rule of thumb, whenever we wish to control
something, it is to cover or to avoid some error or weakness being exposed, to either
others or to ourselves.
Obviously we are sacred of this weakness being exposed because
we have not accepted that part of our ourselves yet.
Jealousy and Control
A jealous lady controls the unfolding of an event, perhaps
to not give her man a chance to talk to lady ‘abc’ because she fears his liking
for her will increase, or because she just can not deal with the powerfully
negative emotions that her own jealousy evokes in her.
One Case Better than the Other
One of the above cases is better than the other! Which one
is it? The one where the jealous lady controls an event so that he does not
grow fonder of lady ‘abc’ is healthier. The other case where the jealous lady
controls the event because she can not deal with her jealousy is graver! This
can equally as well be a man. Easily just as well.
For one, such a person who controls an event to avoid their
egos flaring up because they can not deal with the pain have not accepted that
they have this ego of jealousy yet and they have not accepted the possibility
of it being able to be eliminated and they have not accepted as yet within
themselves the image of a life free of that ego. In effect they are still
hiding from themselves and of course reality - he likes her what can you do
about it? Rip open his heart or mind and take lady ‘abc’ out of there? Of
course prevent him from not going too far for the good of everyone but to
control the event is just suffering for you and if his love for you does not
diminish is that worth it? When are you going to dissolve jealousy like this?
Never!
Fear and Others
Behind many instances where we exert control is fear. It is
the major one actually. And fear always reveals to us a weakness.
There can be greed, ambition and pride as well. Of course
behind each of those three mentioned egos are profound lacks or in other words
incompleteness and weakness. Any structure that is incomplete unfinished and
lacking is weaker and unbalanced.
End (2138).
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