We don't really know why until we try and give it up so as to dissolve it.
We then find a kind of resistance in the form of not wanting to give up something that we like.
It is fascinating, it takes away boredom, it brings out common interests (many people like criticism), makes for juicy conversation, more than that though it allows us to forget our flaws and short comings and to feel somewhat in control. All are illusions.
Basically we like the feeling that it gives us, which is the feeling of being in control (false feeling of being in control of their destiny) and the feeling being wise (seeing all their errors). Even though the feeling is stale and old like old bread, harsh and unkind.
Of course to citicise means to forget our faults. If is difficult to continue criticising while remembring our own faults especailly as we tend to criticise the same faults in others that we have.
Criticism always leads to the same end which is a kind of a failure. That is that the person we criticise will end up failing at some endevour.
We can choose to feel differently about others to feel fresh new, kind and uplifting helping them to rise up to new freer heights rather than drag them and ourselves downwards in our minds and words.
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This is a great post. Truly I have seen when people are criticized for long enough they will live out the things they are criticized for, usually much worse than if they had been left alone.
ReplyDeleteI don’t think sleeping people can actually offer constructive criticism, that is something very delicate, even when it feels like it comes from a place of “caring” this is often a self-deception on the part of the one criticizing.
There is a lot of violence in criticism.