Skip to main content

Self-Sentimentalism (160)

Introduction

The thought process and its corresponding emotions that we call sentimentalism is something that is very painful for us. We at first don’t think that, but after some time of putting our attention on this point we come to realise that it is indeed true.

So for us, if we don’t want to bring pain to ourselves, one excellent really thing to do is to not think about ourselves and those we love sentimentally. In other words don’t take yourself sentimentally. It seems cruel but the real cruelty is hurting ourselves or getting hurt all the time because we think about or regard ourselves sentimentally.


What Life Shows Us Time and Time Again

The events of life show us this very often that the more we expect others to think about us in the sentimental way the more we are going to be disappointed, feel upset and even betrayed. We even in fact believe that children, friends and parents should because they love us think about us sentimentally or be sentimental towards us. The main thing about sentimentalism is that it is not so practical. We can do so many impractical things out of sentimentalism and not to mention how much money we can waste as well.


At First Difficult

At first to remove sentimentalism from ourselves or the thought that no-one will see us sentimentally horrifies us. We think that we will become cruel, that there will be no love in life. Everyone will be hard, tough, practical and exact with us. Sometimes though being sentimental seems the best but it is not often. It can make things more complicated.


Question the Beliefs

We really ought to question all these things or these fears that we have. People should be sentimental towards us? Expecting others to think sentimentally towards us does not have anything to do with us receiving or not receiving love. That love comes from others and from ourselves whether we are expecting to be thought of sentimentally or not.

We need others to feel sentimentally towards us. We say I can’t be happy or live without it. I need it for my psychological well-being. Give it to ourselves, feel positive towards ourselves by not thinking in a negative way allowing ourselves to feel pain.

Gurdjief called this sentimental ego self-consideration, because we are expecting ourselves to be considered. In fact we are wanting ourselves to be considered by external parties, we actually consider ourselves through a third party. We don’t consider ourselves directly if we were to consider ourselves directly it would not be self-consideration.


Worst Aspect

We don’t want others, because of this ego, to think, feel or act negatively towards us either. There is a very strong desire in that ego and if that desire is not met we get very angry. We can never expect others to think lovingly and positively about us. It is just too hard, too very hard to control those things, people cannot be controlled in their thinking, they are all free just as we ourselves are and expect ourselves to be.


Conclusion

Try hard within yourself to break all these beliefs and see self-sentimentalism as something harmful as it truly is. Once you see and understand that it is harmful you are getting free.

Really though are we poor and little? Are we worthy of being thought after sentimentally? I think that if we look hard at ourselves we will see that we are not like that and that we are strong, astute, cleaver and resourceful and often take advantage of others and the various circumstance of life to benefit ourselves.


End (160).

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

What is the Kundabuffer or Kundartiguador? - (405)

Introduction Gurdjieff and Master Samael spoke much about the Kundabuffer organ and a lot of what Master Samael said is pretty clear. This post is just about going over some of what he said. In the Quinto Evangelio, Master Samael also revealed many more details which do not appear in his books. Note, the Qunito Evangelio is a two tome compilation of transcriptions of many recordings of informal talks that Master Samael had with his students. English and Spanish Terms There are these two terms Kundartiguador and Kundabuffer which refer to the same thing. Kundartiguador is Spanish and Kundabuffer is English. I believe it was Gurdjieff who first introduced these terms in his book “Beelzebub’s Tales to his Grandson”. I believe “Beelzebub’s Tales to his Grandson” was not originally written in ether Spanish or English. So these terms Kundartiguador and Kundabuffer are translations where the word “Kunda” could not be translated and the ending "buffer" could b...
11 comments
Read more

When We Speak Bad About Ourselves - Because of Self-Compassion - (2963)

Even Just Thinking Negative When we just even think, let alone speak about ourselves in a negative way, thinking things like: how we are really this and that bad and that is not at all what others see, that we are in capable, worth little, know nothing, can't do this and that, fail at this and that, a liar, a dreamer the list goes on... We can be 100% sure that self-compassion is behind this because pride by itself would never allow this.  In a case like this self-compassion taps into what pride hides from itself and others and exposes it. Feeling that it is doing job at ruining ourselves. Why It Does What It Does? Self-compassion does this sort of thing to avoid reprimand and to extract compassion from others. Self-compassion is about getting compassion for ourselves through others. It is set-up in relativity, using others as a reference point. Really the best thing that you can do for a person who is pitted against this ego is to ignore them, so that they can fa...
Post a Comment
Read more

Want to Know Your Cosmic Ray or the Ray of Your Being? – (1088)

What is a Ray? A ray is a certain line of unfolding from the Absolute. The primordial and most fundamental ray is the Okidanokh ray that provided and continues to provide the means for creation to unfold outwards from within the absolute. When a Monad (your Being for example) or as Master Samael sometimes refers to it - a divine virginal spark, leaves the Absolute to enter into creation, it does so in accordance to a certain ray. This ray is part of the order of creation and this order has been established originally by the Absolute itself. The ray upon which a Monad or our Being has emanated from the Absolute pertains to a certain place and function in creation. This function in turn determines some of the characteristics, wisdom, learnings and nature that a Monad (our Being) expresses in creation. For example, take master Samael Aun Weor, his Monad Samael belongs to the ray of Force, and for sure such a Being would possess certain characteristics and a nature that per...
Post a Comment
Read more