Think the Other Person Could’ve Done Better? No they Couldn’t Because they
Didn’t
These memories of having been hurt appear now and then in
our mind. When we first remember the scene we don’t feel hurt but as soon as
one or two of the “I’s” that we have begins to think about those events we feel
the uncomfortable pain of the egos that are remembering.
We have to deal with this quite often in our life until
those “I’s” that take the memories are dissolved.
One Thing that Helps
One thing that helps is ask ourselves, could have they done
things better. Given that they have their egos as well, given that the
impressions were strong for their egos? I think even to think inside of ourselves
that they could have done better tis to dream and when we dream we suffer.
As soon as we understand that they could not have done
better really, because if they could have they would have makes the offence
upon us to feel less personal and therefore less painful.
The ego in others is not personal to us. It will go against anyone
or anything that upsets it or interferes with its interests or plans.
End (1946).
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