What You Are Doing is Right for You – But Another Person Is Upset and then we Feel Unwell – (2509)

The Situation

We have all probably been in such a situation many times before. Where what we are doing or have to do is something that is right for us, meaning that if we don’t do it, it would be rather cruel or wrong. It can even be something that we can’t get out of. But there is someone close to us that is just upset with it all.

We know we have to do it but yet we feel so uncomfortable doing it because that person is upset with us. We say to ourselves it is something that is over and done with in a couple of hours and it would be just so nice if that person didn’t mind.

The strange thing is that it is not hurting anyone, it is not hurting our spiritual work and it is ethically or morally wrong. Just that the silly jealousy, attachment, fear or self-love of the person can’t handle it.

So why does another person being upset with us bother us so?

Why?

The answer is because we are actually dependent at some level f our mind on that person. Hard to believe but if you are sincere in your questioning you will find it and that is the point that if you work on it, you will feel altogether different.

Key Point of Investigation

The key question is what do we depend on that person for? There is something so let’s question things to find out.

Do we depend on that person to do our job, to feed us, to wash our clothes, to drive us, to give us money, to comfort us, to advise us, to make life easier or perhaps none of these things…

Are we then dependent on that person to make us feel something? We can’t stand feeling that feeling within ourselves and that person being upset with us makes us to feel that which we can’t stand feeling.

So what is that feeling that we can’t stand feeling?

It is not being accepted? Is it being rejected? Is it friction? Is it opposition? Is it conflict? Is it that we can’t stand another harbouring ill-will against us? …

Conclusion

At the end of it all, we depend upon that person for something, and that something is something that we have created at some point and we have attached that person to being a supplier of the dependence to that point.

We have to unearth that for our freedom and for the freedom of the other as well.

End (2509).