Expanse of Self-Love - (750)

Expands to Sexuality

The ego of self-love or egoic self-love has many branches and extends itself into many areas of our life. One of the areas is sexuality and this is what I would like to talk about in this post.

People often look to be loved sexually or sensually. They may want to be loved in many other ways such as: sweet and considerate wards, consideration, kindness, gifts, having their health watched over etc. A person could have their ego of self-love very polarised in one of these particular areas.

When a person wants another person to take interest in their sexuality or to like or love them sexually, there is the ego of self-love at work. However it is of course mixed with lust, but it is mostly self-love wanting to be loved through our sexuality.

This ego of self-love in that direction wants that the other accepts and likes our sexuality and takes an interest in us.

By Ourselves

However, this as we may well know is very tricky grounds. Because, one, we can not expect, rely on, depend on others to like or love our sexuality. We with our self-love polarised in this way only enjoy our sexuality through another person. This really can't be. We really can't always depend on the love of others. So we have to love or enjoy our sexuality for ourselves, by ourselves and by virtue of ourselves.

So we really need to know that within us there is something to do with accepting, valuing, enjoying and loving our sexuality, and it has been said that sexuality is really the core  of ourselves. If we have no sexual energy or sexuality our life would disappear.

So then this aspect of self-love working in sexuality adds an emotional dimension to the sexual impulses and desires.

Conclusion

This emotional dimension really is the one that drives and directs lust and finds some meaning in lustful endeavours. Otherwise it would be just meaningless sensations.

Because people feel rejected and then not loved because the partner does not want to have some sexual type of relations with them at some point shows us that there is an aspect of self-love at work there. It is really only our job to love ourselves, and in the contest of this post it is our job only to constantly all the time to love our sexuality.

Doing this for ourselves changes a lot of things in oneself actually. We learn to need less and we learn to be less overwhelmed by others affection and love that is directed to us in the different senses.

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