Ill-Will of Jealousy
Jealousy has this aspect to it, that it develops a negative
attitude towards the person whom it sees as a threat. For example, a jealous
wife would develop ill-will towards another lady that her husband is friends with.
Note, jealousy is an “I” that works equally as well in both
men and women.
Focus of Jealousy
Jealousy remains focused on the person that it is in a
relationship with. For example, the jealous wife only focuses on her husband and
from this stand point begins to attack the person considered as a threat. If
this position is changed something can shift.
Stepping Out of this Standpoint and Talk
If the jealous person genuinely talks to the person (not
telling them to go away and never come back, but talk with the genuine intention
of befriending or to get to know the person) considered as a threat, then a new
understanding can be attained which can be very beneficial to the person identified
with their jealousy.
Getting to know the person considered as a threat, one can
see the person as a person and not as ‘a threat’, and furthermore one can see
that the ill-will of jealousy is not really warranted as the person may be a
good person and genuinely may not be interested in ruining things between you
and your partner, and getting in the way and stealing away the affections of
your partner and holding first place among your partner’s affections. Which is
the main preoccupation or concern of jealousy.
If Devious
If the other person is quite devious then talking to that
person, so as to get to know the person opens things up. It will have the
effect of shedding much light onto the subconscious of all involved and it will
dispel many subconscious elements such as wrong perceptions, erroneous thought
processes, expectations and concepts.
It will allow the other person to see you as a person with
feelings and love for the partner and that will make he/she (the one who is
devious) to reflect that what he or she is doing will lead to something that
will be very detrimental and cause much pain.
Conclusion
It is very hard to go against a friend then go against someone
that you don’t like. Really, if we transform jealousy we can win a friend in
the other person considered as a threat.
That is one benefit of working on jealousy. You can win a
good friend that will be a good source of help and support for many years to
come. And that does not mean that the new friend will be close to your partner.
IT would mean that the person would be close to you and leave your partner be.
End (1856).
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