Love Thyself - (685)

Introduction

What is this really of loving oneself. Sometimes it seems like a lot of new age stuff that doesn’t really work. This post presents a way to actually love oneself, which is really a powerful antidote to the feelings of hurt, anger and disappointment that we feel when are expecting the love, kindness or consideration of others but do not receive it. The key is to generate love for ourselves using the love we given others.

Yet

Yet the ego of self-love that we all have, is to love ourselves through others, or in other words the ego of self-love in us fulfils the function of feeling well with or towards ourselves using other’s words, attitude, actions etc. towards us as a reference. If others are well with us, our self-love gives us the license to feel well with ourselves and if other are not well with us, our self-love goes with certain force to reacquire the love or affection of others or self-love does not allow us to feel well with ourselves and so we feel awful, uneasy, nervous, anxious, incomplete, missing something or just pessimistic towards ourselves.

Antidote to the Ego of Self-Love

The antidote to the ego of self-love is to make ourselves the reference point for feeling well with ourselves. This means that we have to learn to generate love or good feelings towards ourselves and not rely on others to give us those impressions. Because one thing that life teaches us, is that we can not always count on positive impressions from others to make ourselves feel well, though we can always 100% of the time count on ourselves to feel well with ourselves.

We have to generate love for ourselves many many times in the face of the ego of self-love, precisely in the moments when it gets hurt. So in the next few paragraphs I am going to outline a key or a way to do this.

Love Thyself Through the Good Done to Others

Loving yourself means to find love for yourself and guess where we find it, in the times or instances where we loved others. Through our love for others we come to love ourselves.

We feel good about ourselves when we have given to others or have made others happy, or have made their life easier.

Loving ourselves this way shows us how we are all one. Because the love we give others is the love for ourselves.

Conclusion

Apply or do this practice as many times as you can in the face of self-love when it gets hurt, so to reverse the wrong functioning of self-love, which is to love oneself using others as a reference.

Generate love for yourself or good feelings toward yourself and your Being though the good you have done to others or the love you have given or felt towards others.

I really hope it works for you, because self-love is a painful for us and for others that receive the actions and words generated by our self-love.

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