Controlling People’s Hearts

Controlling People’s Hearts – (1139)

Introduction

A very tricky business is the subconscious desire to control the affection or even the heart of others.

I want to ask: “can we control the heart of another?”.

We feel that we can and we think we can, but real life shows us that we can’t. We can’t because we may have tried and what happened? It didn’t work and there was suffering and upset feelings for all.

Goal of the Desire to Control the Heart of Another

The desire and goal behind this control is “to occupy a place in the person’s heart”. We feel that we are not in their heart and so with the belief that we can actually control another person’s heart we start to do things that pressure the person and that are designed to make them happy so to like us or put us into their heart and that way we try to control or we go to the other side trying to make them feel guilty for not having us in their heart. “How cruel, cold, unfair and selfish that is” we say.

Just on the side; self-love, self-importance and jealousy do this often, or rather try to do this often.

Drop the Goal

Once again imagine we drop this goal of wanting to be in their heart, and leave that to our and their Monad.

We can’t control the heart of another. Even the person his or herself can not control their very own heart to begin with, (we can’t control who we love and don’t love beyond the general love we feel for all essences). What if we did that, that is relate normally to the person and wait for the heart to speak or what we are wanting or waiting for to come to us, and if not we can’t do anything about it and maybe the other person can not do anything about it anyway.

Once again if we trust in our Being, and allow it to fix things and arrange things, and rest in that. IT is worth knowing that when there is a heart to heart relationship, there is a Monad to Monad relationship and so we can relax as the Monads or Beings are in control of that, not us we don’t have to control because they take care of it.

If we lose something the key is that: we only ever have in our life what we need. If we don’t have it anymore maybe it is because we don’t need it.

End (1139).

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