How to Behave? Use the Reference Point! - (1387)

Introduction

I don't know about you but many times I find myself in a bit of conundrum about how to behave in certain social situations.

The choice of reference points and prior knowledge and experience is determinant in helping us to behave appropriately and correctly.

Normally

Normally we behave according to the reference point placed in others. That is we know how people like us to behave and so we behave in accordance to that. Meaning our reference point to generate our behaviour is in what we know about what others like and dislike.  

This way of behaving avoids many problems but it really is constraining, boring, mechanical, restrictive and just ends up making you feel bitter and it produces a huge desire to just get out of there and be free undressed of that situation and those people.

So we need another way of behaving, one that does not cause problems and one that does not produce all these feelings of  "people pleasing constriction".

Move the Reference Point to Within and Remember

To trick is to move the reference of generating your behaviour to be within you. Generate your behaviour according to what you know and feel is correct according to your truth, your heart, your work, your conscience, your consciousness, your love etc. Someone may not like it but, in relation to you, you are not doing anything wrong, and if truly your are not doing anything wrong in relation to your consciousness, conscience and work you won't be doing anything wrong ethically and morally either. 

So as not to cause problems, we can remember how people are, say they have lots of self-love and easily get offended or are control freaks, we can still act from our reference point but use our awareness and knowledge of the people in the environment to do what we would like to do in a way that is intelligently and wisely done that does incorpoarate them yet does not offend.

Acting with balance also is very important. Because when we are balanced we do not incur karma and we do not harm others, we give others balance which is very far removed from unfairly affecting anther person.

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